Let it go..

One of my friends has been complaining about her boyfriend for nearly 1 year. They have been together for more than 10 years.And the only thing that I have been wondering is the question: Why on earth, you don’t let it go?! Why do you keep holding yourself to a concept or an idea of what life should be? When will you start accepting what life is?!

When something happens to someone else it seems to be very clear what the person should do. From the outside, it looks so simple, yet if we are the center of the issue it’s a whole different story. Most of the time I find comfort in those thoughts but the truth is the facts about the story didn’t change, only your perspective.

I used to be annoyed when people say things like: you should let it go

First of all, what exactly should I let go of? How do I let go, and what does that mean to let go? In my humble opinion we should ask each other: do you want to accept your reality? When we think about letting go, we tend to look at things as an object, but it is beyond the object.

It’s your mindset, are you willing to give up the idea or thoughts or beliefs of life, and are you willing to embrace what life throws at you? When we are upset about someone, we are convinced about the things we think that it is justified to be angry with another. Take a deep breath and remain calm. Because the truth is the reason why you became angry is because of the lack of accepting life.

When you are pointing to the other, as matter of fact, you are saying that this person didn’t do what you have in mind. The reality of life is not your mind, and it is impossible to demand from someone else to be a creation of your mind. To be honest, it is not even fair.

But can I not be disappointed and can I not have some expectations?As long as you see the other person for what they are. For example, You are having a conversation with your friend about something you don’t like, you have a very good conversation. This person does his best to change after the conversation, but it doesn’t go fast or it’s not enough for you. You get angry and very upset with him.

You start shouting that this person doesn’t care about you or is not willing to change. We immediately point our fingers at the other, but have you ever thought about yourself projecting your desire for the other and thus do not see the person at all for what they are? Because maybe this is all the person could do at this moment.

I hear you thinking, but maybe if he/she does this, that, a little bit more? But ask yourself is it fair to judge someone for his capability. Would it be fair if you would have been judged for the knowledge you didn’t know when you were younger? Why on earth do we think we can ask the impossible from the other half?

Does that mean we have to accept all the things we don’t like? No, not at all! Does that mean we can not have expectations, sure, but you might be disappointed? Does that mean that I cannot wish for things to be different? Well, you can be all of that but just keep in mind that if you want to have it all, you need to let go of all the things you are and you will start to accept reality and then you will see people for what they are!

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